Unconditional Parenting

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Rated: Unrated
Type: DVD
Studio: CustomFlix
Release Date: 2006-07-13
Running Time: 120 minutes
UNCONDITIONAL PARENTING ? A Talk by Alfie Kohn

Most advice for parents begins with the question ?How can we get kids to do what they?re told?? -- and then proceeds to offer various techniques for controlling them. In his landmark book Unconditional Parenting ? and in this talk based on that book -- Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking ?What are our long-term goals for our children?? It follows that we need to work with them, rather than doing things to them, in order to reach those goals.

Kohn argues that punishments (including time-outs) and rewards (including positive reinforcement) may sometimes produce temporary compliance, but they do nothing to help kids grow into responsible, caring, ethical, happy people. Moreover, he suggests that permissiveness is less worrisome than a fear of permissiveness that leads us to overcontrol our children. Kohn concludes with ten important guidelines to help viewers reconnect to their own best instincts as parents.

About Alfie Kohn:

Alfie Kohn is as well known for his lectures -- passionate, thought-provoking, and funny ? as he is for his writings. His knack for blending stories and studies has the effect of making complicated concepts easy to understand ? and controversial ideas impossible to dismiss.

Kohn is the father of two children and the author of ten books, including Punished by Rewards, The Schools Our Children Deserve, and The Brighter Side of Human Nature. He has appeared twice on ?Oprah? as well as on ?Today? and various programs on NPR and CNN. He lives (actually) in the Boston area.

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A Lecture Every Parent Should Hear
Every parent should hear what Alfie Kohn has to say about unconditional parenting. This is an excellent lecture to show family members and friends who have questions about why you've chosen to parent your children with compassion, patience, understanding and unconditional love. Alfie Kohn challenges the mainstream parenting advice with thoughtful insight, humour and a mass of research. If all parents unconditionally loved their children as Kohn suggests, we would soon have a new generation of confident, loving, intelligent and happy children.

PRACTICALLY PERFECT IN EVERY WAY
After reading a numerous amount of books on education and parenting we read "Unconditional Parenting" and watched this DVD and we find them absolutely wonderful.

All we actually need to bring up healthy, happy kids is a bit of common sense and alot of respect for them and it should be easier than it really is. Alfie Kohn helps us ignore what we have around us and concentrate on what our children really need to help them grow up into kind, helpful, happy human beings.

I think this DVD should be seen by all parents/family/teachers in our society to help them have genuine, good relationships with their kids and turn parenting into something beautiful in every way.

LET 'EM RUN AROUND LIKE WILD INDIANS!!!!
Unfortunately thats what a lot of people think about Alfie Kohn - they are sadly mistaken. Parents REALLY want to do the right thing, but for many what they think is the best thing is counterproductive. According to some, if the kids aren't behaving right, then the parents just aren't exerting enough control.

Kohn doesn't make parents' job easier with simple techniques to control children - rather he makes the job harder by showing you what an illusion control really is.

The book is a fast read and very straighforward. However, most people reading this review probably don't get much past the Thomas the Train books before crashing from exhaustion. Pop in the DVD and sit back - you will get all the essentials. If you are an educator or other professional person interested in the literature references to back it up, then get the book or better yet "Punished by Rewards" which is quite a bit more scholarly.

absolutely amazing
In my city, we have group 'viewings' of this dvd because so many of us want to watch it. We also have discussions of it and we find it so amazingly helpful. It's just SO worth watching. Multiple times even! Gives a context to parenting philosophy and makes it so much easier to see bad parenting advice for what it is (in some magazines or books or from other people) and allows us to be confident in our decisions, especially in jumping out of the rewards/punishments paradigm! Many of us are making that change!!

Share these insights with your family
As a full-time mom, I take my day-to-day work very seriously. I welcome a thoughful challenge and appreciate the insights of Alfie Kohn and other progressive parent/child advocates. Alfie Kohn's latest book "Unconditional Parenting" has helped me reevaluate my child-rearing tactics and consider a more loving, respectful, and creative way of relating to my children. I've been putting the theories to work over the last two weeks and have noticed a positive change in my household. My two year old son shines when he offers his own suggestions for how to resolve conflicts, and I find that I am more patient and loving even when things are not going as smoothly as I would like.



The DVD version of the book made sharing Alfie's insights with my husband very easy. We had an uplifting discussion afterwards and he couldn't wait to put some of the skills to use the following morning. I especially appreciated how Alfie elaborated on the Ten Principles of Unconditional Parenting. Alfie is a very engaging speaker and did a fine job including the best points from the book.